Break-ups and all that shit...

I don't like break-ups. They're sad and nasty and shitty. The drama queen in you suddenly comes out of the closet and you never knew that that it existed. It's also bad for the environment. Why? Think of all the trees being cut down to produce the ton of tissue that you're using to blow your nose and wipe away the tears.

I just learned yesterday that a friend of mine broke up with her boyfriend of x number of years. It's just so sad. After going through all that shit, crying and all, I wouldn't want my friend experiencing the same shit that I went through. But knowing her, she's strong so I know she'll come out of it unscathed.

The way my friend informed me of her break-up made me think of relationships and break-ups. They were good together. The guy obviously adored her and in fact, they were already planning to settle down. But then I guess things change... people change. It's a part of life that could not be dismissed. Change is inevitable.

Whether we change for the good or the better, it cannot be dismissed that the people around us will be affected. It may be good for them as well and it may have a negative impact altogether. We wake up one day realizing that we have changed and it takes a lot of strength and inner will to accept that and do something about it.

I salute my friend for being brave in facing whatever the consequence will be. Even if this means letting go of someone who loves you and end up hurting because you know that it would not be fair to keep the relationship going. I salute my friend for being true and facing the fact that that person is not the one.

In my opinion, relationships and break-ups go hand in hand. One must be ready to come face to face with pain when entering a relationship. You will never know if both of you are strong enough to stand the bumps on the road. But even with all that shit that comes in a relationship, when the person you're with is worth the ride, then I'll gladly go through everything, shit and all....